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bonefeather — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 13:08:07 -0400

mommacrunch:

chroniclesofsuperbaby:

farrahtales:

[TW: EATING DISORDERS] “It Ain’t Skinny They Hate” - a slam poem about thin privilege

(this is my first time so I’m sorry if it’s terrible)
(also I know over-apologizing is somewhat of a turn off)
(but shh I’m Canadian it’s in my nature)

Every now and then I get told to
“Eat a sandwich!”
“Where’s your meat?”
“You’re all skin and bones, put some more on your plate!”
I don’t like it, but
it ain’t skinny they hate

I see the crusty-pixelled saved and resaved facebook jpegs
“Real men like curves, only dogs go for bones!”
and no I don’t wanna see it
especially when I got small tits
and wish
I had an ass that didn’t stab people’s laps
when I sit on them, but
it ain’t skinny they hate

and I know skinny isn’t always strong
skinny isn’t immune to pinching itself
glaring at itself
loathing, over-working, and starving itself
and spewing its breakfast in the washroom at school
but it isn’t because they’re running from skinny

it’s because they’re running from fat

and no they’re not always polite
but they could be on the defense
trying to cope with the privileges fat’s denied, and skinny’s afforded
can you blame them?
if you didn’t understand
why why why why
all your life
the body you were born into isn’t regarded as inherently RIGHT

I get told to eat a sandwich

my baby sister gets to grow up
compared to me, who didn’t diet or exercise
but is told that she HAS to diet and exercise
to look like me

that she wasn’t fine and perfect just the way she was
with chubby arms bared in a sundress
dipping cookies
into a glass of milk
on the front porch

like it’s so fucking taboo to have told her
she doesn’t need to improve
that her body was just as okay as mine

and I don’t know what that’s like

to be policed for my size
to be punished by society, including those who love me
for, of all things, my weight

because
it ain’t skinny they hate

Well, Farrah made me cry.

When thin people get, omg. This was great.

Beautiful! I love this chick!

Omg.

Omg this is perfect.

bonefeather — Fri, 26 Apr 2013 12:54:46 -0400

Omg this is perfect.

veeisagenderneutralname: SOMETIMES I SAY FUCK IT I DON’T HAVE THE EMOTIONAL ENERGY TO DO FAT...

bonefeather — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 01:32:12 -0400

veeisagenderneutralname:

SOMETIMES I SAY FUCK IT I DON’T HAVE THE EMOTIONAL ENERGY TO DO FAT ACTIVISM ANYMORE I JUST NEED TO KNOW LIKE FIVE DECENT PEOPLE AND I WILL ISOLATE MYSELF FROM EVERYONE BUT THEM AND NEVER TALK TO ANYONE AGAIN

This this this.

tombtrash: killerkurves: Elly Mayday [follow and see more...

bonefeather — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 21:40:45 -0400

tombtrash:

killerkurves:

Elly Mayday

[follow and see more like this]

- Certified #KillerKurves

Finally. Rolls and bathing suits. I can DIG IT.

gpoyyyyyyyy like whoaaa

bonefeather — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 21:51:35 -0400

gpoyyyyyyyy like whoaaa

brooklynboobalaaaaaah: wifwolf: shitinbed: Portrait of a...

bonefeather — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 21:49:09 -0400

brooklynboobalaaaaaah:

wifwolf:

shitinbed:

Portrait of a Heart by Christian Schloe

I feel this.

I don't understand why people get so upset at being told they have privilege.

bonefeather — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 21:47:23 -0400

queenfattyoftherollpalace:

Being privileged doesn’t make you a bad person, denying your privilege does.
Having privilege doesn’t mean that your life is sunshine and rainbows. It means that society favors people like you.
Your personal experiences do not erase your privilege.
Don’t be upset about being told you are privileged, be upset that the things systematically given to you are denied from others.

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bonefeather — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 14:59:08 -0400

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bonefeather — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 23:09:54 -0500

"10 honest thoughts on being loved by a skinny boy 1. I say, ‘I am fat.’ He says ‘No, you are..."

bonefeather — Sun, 10 Feb 2013 15:46:11 -0500

“

10 honest thoughts on being loved by a skinny boy

1.
I say, ‘I am fat.’
He says ‘No, you are beautiful.’
I wonder why I cannot be both.
He kisses me
hard.

2.
My college theater professor once told me
that despite my talent,
I would never be cast as a romantic lead.
We do plays that involve singing animals
and children with the ability to fly,
but apparently no one
has enough willing suspension of disbelief
to go with anyone loving a fat girl.
I daydream regularly
about fucking my boyfriend vigorously on his front lawn.

3.
On the mornings I do not feel pretty,
while he is still asleep,
I sit on the floor and check the pockets of his skinny jeans for motive,
for a punchline,
for other girls’ phone numbers.

4.
When we hold hands in public,
I wonder if he notices the looks —
like he is handling a parade balloon on a crowded sidewalk;
if he notices that my hands are now made of rope.

5.
Dear Cosmo: Fuck you.
I will not take sex tips from you
on how to please a man you think I do not deserve.

6.
He tells me he loves me with the lights on.

7.
I can cup his hip bone in my hand,
feel his ribs without pressing very hard at all.
He does not believe me when I tell him he is beautiful.
Sometimes I fear the day he does will be the day he leaves.

8.
The cute hipster girl at the coffee shop
assumes we are just friends
and flirts over the counter.
I spend the next two weeks
mentally replacing myself with her
in all of our photographs.
When I admit this to him
we spend the evening taking new photos together.
He will not let me delete a single one of them.

9.
The phrase “Big girls need love too” can die in a fire.
Fucking me does not require an asterisk.
Loving me is not a fetish.
Finding me beautiful is not a novelty.
I am not a fucking novelty.

10.
I say, ‘I am fat.’
He says, ‘No. You are so much more’,
and kisses me
hard

”

- Rachel Wiley (via agnessundberg)

True.

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bonefeather — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 21:29:12 -0500

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bonefeather — Mon, 04 Feb 2013 04:00:35 -0500

I can’t handle being vulnerable to being hurt by shitty people anymore. I don’t know.

bonefeather — Sat, 02 Feb 2013 03:47:36 -0500

I can’t handle being vulnerable to being hurt by shitty people anymore. I don’t know.

Charlotte Gainsbourg by Jean-Baptiste Mondino

bonefeather — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:43:48 -0500

Charlotte Gainsbourg by Jean-Baptiste Mondino

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bonefeather — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:39:39 -0500

When I was seventeen, Nina Hagen changed my entire perception of...

bonefeather — Thu, 31 Jan 2013 18:38:15 -0500

When I was seventeen, Nina Hagen changed my entire perception of how cool someone could be. Love her so much.

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bonefeather — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 04:20:45 -0500

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bonefeather — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 04:15:51 -0500

bonefeather — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 04:48:00 -0500

daisy-pickers: DIY Terrarium Magnets ♥ Found here! Click here...

bonefeather — Tue, 29 Jan 2013 04:45:30 -0500

daisy-pickers:

DIY Terrarium Magnets ♥ Found here!

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